Trying to save your relationship can be a very daunting thing to do. There
is always the worry that you'll make one wrong move and lose the person
you love forever.
Unfortunately, what feels like the right thing to do, is often wrong. Most
times we should follow the 'counterintuitive path'. When we feel like calling
is when we should stay cool instead. When we feel like pouring our hearts
out is when we should put a lid on it.
As a warning, the techniques you're about to discover you may have never
seen before and at first glance may look a feel wrong, but have been proven
time and again to be effective in even what seems the most complicated
situations.
Counterintuitive Technique #1
The first technique you need to use is to agree with and accept the fact that
your ex has broken up with you. This can be very difficult to do and the
chances are good that you will have a bit of an internal battle before you're
able to do so.
It can definitely help to understand why you need to accept the breakup,
and how it can help you get back together. The main reason is because you
need to give your ex time to respect and miss you again. The chances are
that they are mad or upset with you at the moment, especially if you've
been nagging them about getting back together.
Counterintuitive Technique #2
The second technique you need to use is to cut off all communication. You're
probably about ready to close your browser right now! Hold on, because this
technique really does work. It helps you to accept the breakup and is the
action that shows your ex you are serious.
By not communicating you are allowing your ex time to miss you and time
to get over the reasons for breaking up. This space will be good for your
mental health as well, and will help you to think clearly. It also sets you up
for the next technique.
Counterintuitive Technique #3
The next step is to plan an event where you two can reconnect. But there are
many critical steps in between you can not leave out!
Discover all the counterintuitive and unconventional steps to
saving a relationship.
How To Make Your Ex Return Your Call
Are there 'magic' words you can use to get your ex to return your phone
calls?
Sounds hard to believe but there ARE words that will nearly cast a spell
and make your ex feel almost compelled to return your call.
I am going to share this with you...
A complete strategy is laid out in the Magic Of Making Up.
If you use this technique alone, without an 'overall' plan or strategy...you
may damage your relationship more than if they never returned your call.
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What NOT to Say!
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Before we get into the actual words, let's go over what message almost never
works.
and worse...
Puts you in an AWFUL 'psychological' position.
These usually fall into 2 categories.
The PLEAD -- Where the message sounds like this:
"John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd time I have called. I HAVE to
talk to you."
And the EMERGENCY-
"Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this."
Now, I think you can see what is wrong with both of those approaches?
So, I won't go on and on...
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How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest
To Your Advantage
*********************************
Two of the most powerful forces in the human mind are
*Curiosity &
*Self Interest
And here's the BIG SECRET!
When you combine the two, you have a recipe that WILL work like magic!
So...
Let's look at what you can say that works nearly EVERY TIME.
In a friendly tone:
"Hi John. It's Cindy. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did
for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person."
Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity and self interest?
John will NOT be able to resist! "What did I do?"
"What does she appreciate?" he will be thinking. And he feels good because
it is a positive message.
Now...
Before you call you need to do the "Set Up"...which is figuring out what he/she
did that you appreciate.
It can be any small thing...but needs to be plausible.
But more importantly...
Have an underlying strategy like that laid out in the Magic Of Making Up
system BEFORE you call.
If you apply this technique with no underlying strategy and they call you
back you can do more DAMAGE than good if you do not handle it correctly.
What I am saying is...
What you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is
MORE important than getting them to return your call.
Make sense, doesn't it?
calls?
Sounds hard to believe but there ARE words that will nearly cast a spell
and make your ex feel almost compelled to return your call.
I am going to share this with you...
A complete strategy is laid out in the Magic Of Making Up.
If you use this technique alone, without an 'overall' plan or strategy...you
may damage your relationship more than if they never returned your call.
****************
What NOT to Say!
****************
Before we get into the actual words, let's go over what message almost never
works.
and worse...
Puts you in an AWFUL 'psychological' position.
These usually fall into 2 categories.
The PLEAD -- Where the message sounds like this:
"John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd time I have called. I HAVE to
talk to you."
And the EMERGENCY-
"Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this."
Now, I think you can see what is wrong with both of those approaches?
So, I won't go on and on...
*********************************
How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest
To Your Advantage
*********************************
Two of the most powerful forces in the human mind are
*Curiosity &
*Self Interest
And here's the BIG SECRET!
When you combine the two, you have a recipe that WILL work like magic!
So...
Let's look at what you can say that works nearly EVERY TIME.
In a friendly tone:
"Hi John. It's Cindy. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did
for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person."
Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity and self interest?
John will NOT be able to resist! "What did I do?"
"What does she appreciate?" he will be thinking. And he feels good because
it is a positive message.
Now...
Before you call you need to do the "Set Up"...which is figuring out what he/she
did that you appreciate.
It can be any small thing...but needs to be plausible.
But more importantly...
Have an underlying strategy like that laid out in the Magic Of Making Up
system BEFORE you call.
If you apply this technique with no underlying strategy and they call you
back you can do more DAMAGE than good if you do not handle it correctly.
What I am saying is...
What you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is
MORE important than getting them to return your call.
Make sense, doesn't it?
Whoopi & Joy Behar kiss on the Lips!
This week on The View, the ladies were talking about how to avoid getting
the swine flu. The discussion began with ways to handle (or not handle, as
the case may be) guests, to reduce the amount of germs passed from one
human to another. Or something.
Anyway, during the course of the bit, Joy offered several options, including
the elbow-bump, the knuckle-bump, and -- getting progressively worse --
the hand-shake, the body hug, an air kiss, and then a full-out kiss on the
mouth. She proceeds to demonstrate this on Whoopi Goldberg.
...Read More
the swine flu. The discussion began with ways to handle (or not handle, as
the case may be) guests, to reduce the amount of germs passed from one
human to another. Or something.
Anyway, during the course of the bit, Joy offered several options, including
the elbow-bump, the knuckle-bump, and -- getting progressively worse --
the hand-shake, the body hug, an air kiss, and then a full-out kiss on the
mouth. She proceeds to demonstrate this on Whoopi Goldberg.
...Read More
The Fine Line Between the Finer Things and Trying Too Hard
Dapper or Desperate?
Here’s the scene: You’re in a bar. A girl walks in looking like she just stepped
off the pages of Playboy and into your watering hole – killer body, blond hair,
and super sexy. However, as the night progresses, you watch her get drunker
by the moment, throwing herself at every male that passes by. You’re thinking,
“You’re so hot! Why do you have to ruin it by trying so hard?” Well, I hate to
break it to you, buddy, but this is what you look like when you’re trying to get
your Don Juan on.
Women can spot a bull-shit artist from a mile away. What you consider “game”
renders eye rolls from the fairer sex. Look around at your friends that do best with
the ladies. What’s their secret? It’s no game at all. Women respond best to men
who seem to have a genuine interest in who they are. Fine wines and a dozen
roses are a wonderful thought, but mean nothing if you make it all about the show.
Simply trying to impress her is not the goal. Treat her like she impresses you.
Over doing it with a woman is a sign of insecurity, and insecurity is not a turn-on.
How many jokes have you heard about men with fancy cars over-compensating
for other areas? It’s not about what stuff you can put in front of her. It’s about
the connection you make with a woman. You could be sitting in a dirty coffee
shop in Harlem, but if you two are making a connection in an intellectual-emotional
way, you will dazzle her more than if you were dropping $500 a plate at Nobu.
Showering her with luxuries with no substance behind it comes across as desperate.
This translates to the bedroom. I know you want to blow her mind, especially the
first time, but you don’t have to do so every time…especially the first time. Much
how you don’t immediately know how she likes her coffee or what her favorite
childhood toy was, knowing where all her hot spots are requires some getting to
know each other. Going into the first time with guns a-blazin’ is about as suave
as asking her “what’s your sign?”
Just the same as on a date, the time in the bedroom should being about
experiencing each other. Instead of twisting her into a pretzel and busting out
every sex toy known to man, start simply. Feel her skin, and kiss her lips.
All the tricks can come once you know each other.
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Here’s the scene: You’re in a bar. A girl walks in looking like she just stepped
off the pages of Playboy and into your watering hole – killer body, blond hair,
and super sexy. However, as the night progresses, you watch her get drunker
by the moment, throwing herself at every male that passes by. You’re thinking,
“You’re so hot! Why do you have to ruin it by trying so hard?” Well, I hate to
break it to you, buddy, but this is what you look like when you’re trying to get
your Don Juan on.
Women can spot a bull-shit artist from a mile away. What you consider “game”
renders eye rolls from the fairer sex. Look around at your friends that do best with
the ladies. What’s their secret? It’s no game at all. Women respond best to men
who seem to have a genuine interest in who they are. Fine wines and a dozen
roses are a wonderful thought, but mean nothing if you make it all about the show.
Simply trying to impress her is not the goal. Treat her like she impresses you.
Over doing it with a woman is a sign of insecurity, and insecurity is not a turn-on.
How many jokes have you heard about men with fancy cars over-compensating
for other areas? It’s not about what stuff you can put in front of her. It’s about
the connection you make with a woman. You could be sitting in a dirty coffee
shop in Harlem, but if you two are making a connection in an intellectual-emotional
way, you will dazzle her more than if you were dropping $500 a plate at Nobu.
Showering her with luxuries with no substance behind it comes across as desperate.
This translates to the bedroom. I know you want to blow her mind, especially the
first time, but you don’t have to do so every time…especially the first time. Much
how you don’t immediately know how she likes her coffee or what her favorite
childhood toy was, knowing where all her hot spots are requires some getting to
know each other. Going into the first time with guns a-blazin’ is about as suave
as asking her “what’s your sign?”
Just the same as on a date, the time in the bedroom should being about
experiencing each other. Instead of twisting her into a pretzel and busting out
every sex toy known to man, start simply. Feel her skin, and kiss her lips.
All the tricks can come once you know each other.
Tags:
relationship
romance
7 Biggest Mistakes People Make On Cruises
Going on a cruise will be one of the most fun and memorable experiences of
your life but without some important information your fantastic trip could
become a total disaster.
Here are the 7 biggest mistakes people make on cruises and how to avoid them.
1. Booking your cruise TOO late - Book at least 3 - 6 months in advance and pay
in full to save up to 15% on your trip. Doing so you'll also get the best choice of
stateroom and the biggest discount on your cruise. Remember, cruises are cheaper
in the off-season
2. Lacking the required passport and documentation - Before you leave make sure
you have the correct documents to travel to all the ports during your trip. Imagine
having to stay on the ship while everyone else was having fun on land.
3. Choosing a bad place for a stateroom - Some staterooms will seem appealing in
price but don't be fooled the following should always be avoided: rooms just below
the disco, next to the elevator, below a gym or restaurant or a lounge. (Unless of
course, you like the excessive noise :)
4. Not making your luggage stand out - The last thing you want is someone else
grabbing your luggage because they thought it was their bag. It could be days before
they locate your bag with thousands of people on board a large cruiser. Tie some
brightly colored string or duct tape in a unique way onto your handle that makes
it individual and stand out.
5. Thinking you'll save money in town - Most people think that price must be cheaper
in port because they’re no longer forced to the ship’s prices. Be careful. Many of these
merchants are ready for tourists and often sell inferior products at similar prices.
6. Not looking at the “all included” meals fine print - While food is often included in
the cruise price itself, most of the time, alcohol is not. Just understand that you are
probably paying for it and drink according to your budget.
7. Not eating often enough - Did you know that eating 6 smaller meals on a cruise
is better than 3 bigger meals? And considering the average person gains 10 pounds
on a 7-day cruise, it’s worth gaining some insights into maintaining your weight.
Nothing’s worse than coming home from a cruise only to realize you need to lose
20 pounds.
So there you have it 7 great ways to get the most out of your cruise.
Michael Webb is the author of “How To Lose Weight
While Eating Like Royalty On a Cruise”, helping
fellow cruisers stay in shape while still feeling
like they’re on the vacation of a lifetime.
To read more, visit:
How To Lose Weight
While Eating Like Royalty On a Cruise.
Tags:
Michael+Webb
How+To+Lose+Weight
your life but without some important information your fantastic trip could
become a total disaster.
Here are the 7 biggest mistakes people make on cruises and how to avoid them.
1. Booking your cruise TOO late - Book at least 3 - 6 months in advance and pay
in full to save up to 15% on your trip. Doing so you'll also get the best choice of
stateroom and the biggest discount on your cruise. Remember, cruises are cheaper
in the off-season
2. Lacking the required passport and documentation - Before you leave make sure
you have the correct documents to travel to all the ports during your trip. Imagine
having to stay on the ship while everyone else was having fun on land.
3. Choosing a bad place for a stateroom - Some staterooms will seem appealing in
price but don't be fooled the following should always be avoided: rooms just below
the disco, next to the elevator, below a gym or restaurant or a lounge. (Unless of
course, you like the excessive noise :)
4. Not making your luggage stand out - The last thing you want is someone else
grabbing your luggage because they thought it was their bag. It could be days before
they locate your bag with thousands of people on board a large cruiser. Tie some
brightly colored string or duct tape in a unique way onto your handle that makes
it individual and stand out.
5. Thinking you'll save money in town - Most people think that price must be cheaper
in port because they’re no longer forced to the ship’s prices. Be careful. Many of these
merchants are ready for tourists and often sell inferior products at similar prices.
6. Not looking at the “all included” meals fine print - While food is often included in
the cruise price itself, most of the time, alcohol is not. Just understand that you are
probably paying for it and drink according to your budget.
7. Not eating often enough - Did you know that eating 6 smaller meals on a cruise
is better than 3 bigger meals? And considering the average person gains 10 pounds
on a 7-day cruise, it’s worth gaining some insights into maintaining your weight.
Nothing’s worse than coming home from a cruise only to realize you need to lose
20 pounds.
So there you have it 7 great ways to get the most out of your cruise.
Michael Webb is the author of “How To Lose Weight
While Eating Like Royalty On a Cruise”, helping
fellow cruisers stay in shape while still feeling
like they’re on the vacation of a lifetime.
To read more, visit:
How To Lose Weight
While Eating Like Royalty On a Cruise.
Tags:
Michael+Webb
How+To+Lose+Weight
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